940 Saturdays

Lenna Allen

Lenna Allen, ASAP Family Therapist

Maybe it’s because I’m a Mom. Maybe it’s because I just spent a wonderful, grounding, and memorable weekend at Montvale with my family. Whatever the reason, this quote made me stop still and tear up:

“940 Saturdays” The number of Saturdays between the day your child is born and the time he or she turns 18. The phrase might serve as a reminder to cherish the time you have with your child and to use it wisely. No Regrets Parenting by Harley Rotbart, M.D.

I started to think about how many Saturdays I have spent with my children. How many have I wasted? I also thought about our adoptive parents. How many Saturdays do they get with their children? The families I work with through the ASAP program adopt children out of DCS custody, and their child may have spent many Saturdays without their “forever family.”

I am so thankful for my experience at the Harmony Family Center at Montvale, and I can only imagine the future camps our adoptive families will enjoy. It is definitely full of watching children add pipe cleaners and pompoms to a rock or a pinecone to convert it into an “animalito.” It is looking together at tadpoles, finding red-spotted newts, and crossing rock-paved creeks with your family on a nature hike. It is laughing as families run from the lodge to the barn to take their picture with a horse that has a feather boa for the photo scavenger hunt. It is observing intense conversations as families choose and decide what will represent each of them on their family shield. It is watching adults relax around a campfire while children chase fireflies and laugh.

I’m glad to say that one of my 940 Saturdays was spent enjoying attachment-rich activities and the healing power of family and nature at Montvale.

Published on June 20, 2012 by .
Posted in Advocacy and Support