A Need To Know and Belong

Jessica Bailey

Jessica Bailey, Administrative Assistant for Adoption

My parents recently became obsessed with Ancestry.com. We traced our respective family branches all of the way back through Ireland, Scotland, England, France and Germany. They became so entranced with the idea of needing to know precisely who and from where they came from, that it made me think about how important it is to each of us to understand who we are. Whether we realize it or not, our need for self identity revolves around knowing what our place in this world is, and who our people are.
Many adopted children have the same need to know who they are, where they come from, and the details of their heritage combined with the challenge of adapting to a whole new world in their new family. Many adoptive parents have the challenge of helping their children not only create a new identity with them, but also to help them remain rooted in their own personal history by providing as much detail as they can about who and where they came from. We all need to know who we are. For the adopted child, that may be a special challenge in and of its own right, and part of what we do here at Harmony is assist those children with knowing that’s ok to be who they are while also establishing their new identity with their forever family. It matters, because it affects our ability to feel secure, and no one should ever be denied that right.

Published on May 17, 2012 by .
Posted in Adoption