A recent cell phone conversation with a birth mother and former client began like this: “I cannot believe it has been a year.” We went on to chat about the typical things – how’s work? how’s your family? I detected tears and excitement as we talked about getting together for a visit with her birth daughter and her daughter’s adoptive family.
We ended our conversation with talk of birthday cakes, balloons, and discussion of where we could find a suitable place to celebrate a very special birthday. We need a place, large enough to accommodate the birthday girl and her mother and father, her birth mother and family, grandfather, aunts, uncles, and cousins. All of the details have been ironed out and next week I have the honor of celebrating the birthday of one very fortunate little girl who is about to celebrate her first birthday surrounded by a lot of people who love her.
It takes fearless people to walk an open adoption. It takes birth parents that are willing to deal with their grief head on. It takes adoptive parents secure enough to share their child with others. It takes aunts, uncles, and grandparents who have enough room in their heart to welcome in a set of strangers who have one thing in common – their love for a child.